I would give everything to have the one thing you have.

March 18, 2019

What can fly without wings?






I recently had a Lunch with a good friend/ mentor of mine.

I remember it very well but some of the things he said stuck with me and I thought its best to share. I thought I would write them down before I forget and so I can come back to it when I need a reminder. Please excuse all my grammar errors.. 


I was talking to my friend who is much older than myself. He is a very humble and highly successful self made guy, who didn't come from much. 


"You know what Matt, I would give it all back, the cars, the house, the money, and everything to have the one thing you have. "


After he said that I was thinking in my mind what on earth could I have that he doesn't? 

Like honestly, It was like I froze in time as I was thinking about what he meant. I replied what do I have that you don't?


He said "I would give everything to have the one thing you have, Youth.

As you grow older the game gets shorter. Time slowly runs out, obviously. We all know time runs out but you have to feel it to understand it. If I cant walk anymore how good is money?"


He said "what I miss is:

The process  and the trill of the unknown. 

You can have it all but you can't have it all at the same time remember that. "


Now, I'm a pretty motivated person and unlike most people at my age I understand how important time is. I really do value time, especially with people. In order to value time you have to lose someone. I lost one grandfather and one grandmother before I graduated high school. 


For one time in my life I wasn't ready for his answer to the question of: "what do I have that you don't". I think I was caught off guard because it was so much wisdom in just a few sentences. I also really hate small talk. You know what I mean, you go to the grocery store and you run into people you know. Its all the same conversation...

"how are you"

"what are you up to"

" good to see you"

and you then depart away from each other then end up awkwardly running into them again in the next isle over. 

Know what I'm saying? I am so sick and tired of doing that every single time Kathryn (my girlfriend) drags me to the grocery store. I really love just a good heart to heart conversation or a deep talk about life. I remember as a child my mother told me I could ask God for certain things. The only thing I ever asked for was wisdom. Which I believe has made me wise beyond my years. 

but anyways back to the conversation over lunch. 


He didn't stop, he kept talking. He talked to me about all the thing ahead of me in life. I guess I've never thought real far into it. 

He said: 


"You're future is a huge canvas to paint on. 

You have  thousands of experiences to go through.

Thousands of Images and memories to gain. 

Thousands of good memories and hundreds of bad situations. 

Pay close attention to the bad situations because the best wisdom is gained from them. 


Enjoy the process in business. Look back and appreciate the good days and prepare for whats next. 

Matt remember one thing, the key in business is to stay in business and don't ever let anyone tell you differently. 


You're an entrepreneur you have to make the hard choices and big decisions. If you are tired of making big decisions then go work for someone else.

Matt remember one thing: If you want to be paid the highest you have to make those decisions. The best problem solvers are paid the most. "


I shook my head in agreement and smiled during the whole thing. I was just soaking everything up like a sponge. We talked about a bunch of things and I asked so many questions just on life in general. 

He went into the topic of love and relationships as well. That was also really good but Ill save all that advice for myself. 


Very often the process is more valuable than the prize and the journey makes us feel most alive.  


I have said this so many times. I have written a blog post on it before. I miss being a kid and selling lemonade and root beer on the sidewalk. As I look back I really miss selling Gatorade in High school. That was the early starting point and where all the fun was. I recently met the new athletic director of the high school I graduated from. As I shook his hand he asked me if I had any Gatorade for sale. I laughed and said who told you about that. Its funny to hear stories still are told. Considering that was 5 years ago and he has only been there for two years.


The only regret I have is I didn't take any pictures of me selling over 1700 Gatorade. There is no pictures just stories. So now, I take pictures of everything and its the same reason I have this blog. Documenting my journey, recording my thoughts, and gold nuggets I pick up along the way. Also for the record I have a lot of pictures I haven't posted. The pictures aren't for Instagram, they are documentation. I encourage you to take more pictures..... 

Because remember this:


We only have two kinds of memories in life. 

ones that we control and the ones we create. 


The memories we create are the paint brush and life is the canvas. 


Don't forget you're in control of the paint brush. If you put the paint brush down don't forget to pick it back up and start painting again. 

As my Art teacher in high school Mrs. Koverman said, a painting is NEVER done. 

Neither is your canvas. 

Hoping to paint mine soon in Key West Florida.


Hope this post adds some value in your life. Hope it really gets you thinking.






I can bring tears to your eyes; resurrect the dead, make you smile, and reverse time. I form in an instant but I last a life time. What am I?


A memory. 





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