I think its crazy how much people change over a extended period of time.
I can’t fall asleep because my mind will not stop processing deep unimportant thoughts on that subject.
My mindset has shifted in the past 6 months. The older I get the less I want people to know. The more and more I want to be as incognito as possible. It must be part of growing older. At least that’s what I keep telling myself.
The 19-year-old me didn’t understand why people never talked about how much money they made in a year. Who cares what people think was my thought at that moment. Now I understand its best to keep that personal because people will judge you based on how little you bring in or think you're rich.
The #1 question I hate the most is: so what do you do for a living? Things have changed, business has grown, and my answers have changed. I used to respond with
"I run a business we do X dollars a year selling shoes and other stuff online." What I learned was that just leads to twenty more questions and im talking about myself for 20 mins. My new response is: I graduated college with a degree in marketing not that long ago and I work for a shoe store that sells mostly online. The response is always the same: “on that’s cool” and its followed by zero questions. From there I can ask more questions about the other person. Im not looking for a high five, no I'm proud of you, or that is really cool tell me more.
I learned in business some people are looking for the notoriety or fame. Some are looking for the money and some just love what they do. The ones that are looking for the notoriety or publicity out of it are the ones to stay away from.
If I told someone we sold 500,000 dollars in shoes last year what do you think that person is thinking? What if it’s a million? What if I told you we sold 1.5 million dollars in shoes last year? What if it was $20,000 in shoes? The world will never know but in the end it doesn't matter.
The world doesn’t need to know because people have their own perception. Someone close to me once legitimately thought I was a millionaire. I'm still laughing about that today because some nights I'm eating Ramen noodles for dinner. There are days I really think about applying for a job on base.
People have a perception that who ever has their own business is loaded. When the reality is working for yourself sucks. I work way more than you not because I want to but because I have to.
The older I get the more I want to delete social media and this blog and fly silently under the radar.
I realized if you ever reach success pay attention to the person in your circle that isn’t excited for you.
I’ve learned close friends are great, but acquaintances are perfectly fine too. Appreciate who is always there or who is there when you need them to be.
Learn when not to be honest.. I always thought the truth is always the best option but the truth we live in a world were people get offended very easily. Not to many people take it on the chin and keep moving forward.
So many quick little things learned along the way:
Its better to be loved by a few than liked by many.
Money isn’t evil, the person behind is or isn’t.
New years resolutions are for losers. Create goals and chase them, do not wait till Jan. 1st.
Always jump into the deep end.
Don’t compare yourself to others. Focus on your own game.
Everyone has a chance to make it much further than where they came from.
Life can sweep the rug out from under you at any time.
If you’re lucky enough to still have your grandparents around spend more time with them.
Just because you make more money doesn’t mean you should spend more money.
Life is lived in chapters best believe that.
Loyalty is one of the most valuable assets a person can have
God will look and judge you on your heart.
People will come and go like seasons but always remember the lessons they taught you.
You will offend someone by what you say or don’t say.
As an adult you learn naps are not punishments.
Pick your battles.
Nobody’s opinion is more important than your own.
Don’t always try to save someone. Some people simply don’t want to be saved.
Forgive, find gratitude for the good, the bad, and the ugly.
God will always provide.
No one really hast it figured out. Take your own advice.
Nothing good happens after midnight…lol
As we grow older the people we looked up to and thought were flawless, we figure out that they are the flawed. Although we can’t judge, we must take care of them because they took care of us. Unconditional love is the most powerful thing on the planet.
My advice is be your own hero that is the only person you can control.